Signs of an intimidating person

01-Sep-2019 12:52

As a Psychologist, I find it easy to look beyond the behaviour to the underlying reasons. Having said that, understanding the reasons doesn’t automatically make me like someone! When we come across an angry and unhappy person, many of us take this behaviour personally. I remember when I worked at Broadmoor Hospital, we would have supervision to help us cope with the various personalities we had to deal with.The person who had come to talk to us explained that the aggressive and intimidating behaviour that we received most days from those held in Broadmoor was more about them than it was about us.If you always seem to think a guy likes you only to be left with more questions than answers whenever you see them, they could be intimidated by you.This is how to tell if a guy is intimidated by you for sure so you can solve the problem.See intimidating people as telling you something non verbally – intimidating behaviour isn’t normal when someone isn’t being threatened or is not in fear.They are giving you behavioural cues that you can use to your advantage.Be careful with this though – I don’t mean you should put on a condescending voice and offer them a sweet!What this technique does, is allow you to ‘frame’ the other person in a different light.

Imagine yourself talking to the little child inside the intimidating person.There is a very clever way to deal with this situation.Every single one of us was a child once, fairly powerless and open to the rules, restrictions and attitudes of the ‘powerful’ adults around us.We can all be regressed to feeling like that little kid again depending on how someone behaves with us. Intimidating people are often all bravado and have very little to back it up with.Have you ever been around your parents or an adult that knew you as a child and suddenly realised that you have changed your behaviour? Acting sheepish and childlike amongst adults from our childhood is quite common. They are used to others being intimidated and accepting their behaviour.

Imagine yourself talking to the little child inside the intimidating person.

There is a very clever way to deal with this situation.

Every single one of us was a child once, fairly powerless and open to the rules, restrictions and attitudes of the ‘powerful’ adults around us.

We can all be regressed to feeling like that little kid again depending on how someone behaves with us. Intimidating people are often all bravado and have very little to back it up with.

Have you ever been around your parents or an adult that knew you as a child and suddenly realised that you have changed your behaviour? Acting sheepish and childlike amongst adults from our childhood is quite common. They are used to others being intimidated and accepting their behaviour.

She went on to explain that these negative behaviours were projections of inner misery and chaos.